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Settling

In honor of my birthday, I reread my favorite depressing, get-married-while-you-still-can advice column at The Atlantic.

My advice is this: Settle! That’s right. Don’t worry about passion or intense connection. Don’t nix a guy based on his annoying habit of yelling “Bravo!” in movie theaters. Overlook his halitosis or abysmal sense of aesthetics. Because if you want to have the infrastructure in place to have a family, settling is the way to go. Based on my observations, in fact, settling will probably make you happier in the long run, since many of those who marry with great expectations become more disillusioned with each passing year.

Also, this read through I realized that men and women probably settle for different reasons. Although I am still a fan of settling, I think that my hand only gets stronger as time passes while my opponent's (i.e., future wife's) hand probably has a half-life of 5-7 years. I should just wait 'em out. Also, I am not giving up my requirement to review 5 years of audited tax records and running a credit check.

What I didn’t realize when I decided, in my 30s, to break up with boyfriends I might otherwise have ended up marrying, is that while settling seems like an enormous act of resignation when you’re looking at it from the vantage point of a single person, once you take the plunge and do it, you’ll probably be relatively content. It sounds obvious now, but I didn’t fully appreciate back then that what makes for a good marriage isn’t necessarily what makes for a good romantic relationship. Once you’re married, it’s not about whom you want to go on vacation with; it’s about whom you want to run a household with. Marriage isn’t a passion-fest; it’s more like a partnership formed to run a very small, mundane, and often boring nonprofit business. And I mean this in a good way.

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This doesn’t undermine my case for settling. Instead, it supports my argument to do it young, when settling involves constructing a family environment with a perfectly acceptable man who may not trip your romantic trigger—as opposed to doing it older, when settling involves selling your very soul in exchange for damaged goods.

Windows Live Photo Gallery Rocks my Socks

I just downloaded the latest beta of Live Photo Gallery and the LiveUpload plugin for Facebook. It is sweet. I can tag people in Live (there even appears to some facial recognition ala iPhoto 09) and they send the pictures tags and all straight to facebook. I used something something in iPhoto last year, but this is much better. I don't have to confirm anything on the facebook side, I can add to existing albums, I can set what groups of people can access the photos. I can even load pictures to multiple account. I don't say this often about software, but I have a crush.

There is also a YouTube plugin from the same folks. Seems to work equally well.